At first I didn’t want to do a baby registry at all. Mostly because it feels SO WEIRD to me to be like “hey I need these expensive things, now purchase them for me. K thx!” However when I needed to put together a list of items to buy before she gets here it became pretty evident to me that a baby registry was a two birds one stone kinda thing. I get to keep track of what all is left, AND those who want to celebrate this beautiful new life with us also get to join in on the giving!
I decided to use Babylist because it let me add items from all over the web, instead of just picking from a set list of items some registries sell. Babylist also gives you options for adding cash funds or favors! We chose to go with the parental leave fund, since I will be taking 2 months off from work, but will be unpaid. There’s also a diaper fund option which is legit. There were great options such as a meal train, offers to do chores, and some other ones buuuuuut since we’re in Oklahoma and don’t have many people around up here I didn’t think those were feasible.
Feel free to take a peek. I’m sure there’s a lot of things that seem like they are missing, but we aren’t doing a nursery until we’ve moved later this summer/fall so decor and whatnot is on our back burners. I STRUGGLED with choosing the travel set, mostly because of car seat safety but also the colors of the babybjörn and the changing pad.. probably over thinking it.
What a sense of relief this week has brought us! Not only did we decide on a midwife, but we also chose where we are going to birth our baby girl this summer.
I had my consultation with Brandy Harris from Willow Birth Services at the OKC Birth Center and fell in love instantly. She was open and honest and INFORMATIVE, not just directive. The birth center itself is brand spanking new this year; had their first birth this past week as well 🥰. The interior reminded me of homes in Sweden and that right there is what sold me. If my daughter isn’t going to be born in Sweden then I might as well make it DAMN CLOSE in esthetics. Plus I believe the space in which you birth should be equally as intimate at the space in which you conceived.
After struggling through appointments with FOUR different doctors, we settled on a natural birth. I hate hospitals and the business of being born in the states is overwhelming as a first time mom. I felt like a number, rather than a patient; I wasn’t about to pass that onto my child.
I am still vastly unprepared and uneducated on child birth, which is why we chose to hire some amazing women to help us. We will be working with a midwife, her assistant, as well as a doula. Ben, being a Magic The Gathering player, named our birthing team after a card and I’m here for it 😛 . I think I may have forgone having a doula if my mother was going to be present at the birth, or if this wasn’t our first rodeo, but ask me again after and I might have a different answer.
I will be having an unmedicated birth, which frankly still scares the daylights out of me but I believe mindset is everything. My body was made for this, I am a woman and am meant to bring new life into this world. If I mentally prepare then my body will know how to do the rest. Which is also the precise reason I chose the women I did to work with during our birth. They come with experience, knowledge, and advice that the internet can’t give me. I am also super thrilled to have Ben be an integral part of our birth, rather than an anxious dad in the corner of a hospital room.
For the first time during this pregnancy I can honestly say that I am excited to have birth! Maybe not so excited about all aspects but I feel empowered with the team we’ve chosen. 🤗